I turn off my desires when ... which is not the same question as, What turns me of is ... and You turn me off when ...

You have hunger you have sex you have power and you have the urge for acquisitiveness.

Veiled Sexuality

Desire needs space.

So what sustains desire, and why is it so difficult?

There's lust, which is just wanting to have sex.

I shut myself off when ... began to be the question.

One is the sex drive the craving for sexual gratification.

And when you kill the sex drive, you kill orgasm.

Foremost, women are starting to express their sexuality.

You become extremely sexually possessive.

There is no caretaking in desire.

Responsibility and desire just butt heads.

Esther Perel The secret to desire in a long term relationship

My wife has no libido since she got pregnant. What can I do?

This painting is called The Allegory Of Chastity, but purity's not just about suppressing female sexuality.

The soul is made up of reason, determination, and passion.

Because therein lies the mystery of eroticism.

It's kind of the fatal erotic blow, isn't it?

In desire, we want a bridge to cross.

It's pretty much like the moon. It has intermittent eclipses.

That's the beginning of desire, that exploratory needs curiosity, discovery.

And if there is a verb that comes with desire, it is to want.

A crisis of desire, as in owning the wanting desire as an expression of our individuality, of our free choice, of our preferences, of our identity desire that has become a central concept as part of modern love and individualistic societies.

But the moment you fall in love, you become extremely sexually possessive of them.

Not only do they suppress the dopamine circuit, but they kill the sex drive.

Because desire comes with a host of feelings that are not always such favorites of love jealousy, possessiveness, aggression, power, dominance, naughtiness, mischief.

It starts very young. It continues into our sex lives up to the end.

And then, as you grow up, the cortex develops, and inhibits these latent sexual urges towards your mother.

But in desire, we tend to not really want to go back to the places we've already gone.

So I turn myself on when, I turn my desires, I wake up when ...

So what happens, if you want to sustain desire, it's that real dialectic piece.

You have to know that the lack of daylight can provoke some problem of energy, or problem of libido.

Wanting them is one thing. Needing them is a shutdown, and women have known that forever, because anything that will bring up parenthood will usually decrease the erotic charge.

I have yet to see somebody who is so turned on by somebody who needs them.

Thank God, or you would all be sexually aroused when you saw your mother.

Freud would say, The fact that you're at all concerned reveals your underlying sexual insecurity.

They think that choice, as seen through the American lens best fulfills an innate and universal desire for choice in all humans.

In preference to women you satisfy your lust with men. Indeed you are a people who are guilty of excess.

What is it about transgression that makes desire so potent?

In preference to women you satisfy your lust with men. Indeed you are a people who are guilty of excess.

You lustfully go towards men, instead of women! In fact, you have transgressed the limits.

You lustfully go towards men, instead of women! In fact, you have transgressed the limits.

See, you approach men lustfully instead of women no, you are a people that do exceed.'

See, you approach men lustfully instead of women no, you are a people that do exceed.'